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Waterfall, Northland, New Zealand

Haruru Falls, Northland, New Zealand Photo credit Karen Sole

Is Family Constellations Right For You? 

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  • Are you cut off from someone important to you?

  • Do you feel uncomfortable around a particular family member?

  • Does the room go quiet when a certain member of your extended family/whanau whanui is mentioned?

  • Do you wonder what happened to a grandparent or great grandparent?

  • Are you feeling shame or guilt?

  • Are you adopted or were you fostered?

  • Are you in an unnamed power struggle with a sibling?  

  • Do/did your parents want you to parent them?

  • Are you hurt by the apparent exclusion of a family member?

  • Do you repeatedly get into relationships wth the 'wrong' person?

  • Are there shadows of sexual or other violence over your family?

  • Do you feel concerned about children and young people in your (wider) family?r?

  • Are you, or is your family affected by death, suicide or loss?

  • Are you bothered by issues around partners, lovers, parents and children?

  • Divorced or separated?

  • Are you cut off from an adult child, and therefore, grandchildren?​​

  • Have you moved to another country, by choice or as a refugee?
     

Family group in quiet moment

Photo credit Karen Sole Permission granted by all subjects

Your Response To The Questions

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The questions above point to some of the unconscious and trans-generational patterns of discomfort, depression, entanglement, and more. Family Constellation works to  reveal these uncomfortable or distressing patterns. If you want to untangle  a string, you do not pull the ends to make the knots tighter, but loosen the knotty part with light touch and gentle handling, right? There are difficult moments in any case, but eventually you hold a fairly flexible, free strand. 

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Family Constellations

 

The modality is used in a group/workshop, or as effectively in a one to one session, by using figures or objects to represent the individuals of your family system, or possibly in a guided meditation or drawing. A workshop may run over as little as an hour or two, up to one or more days, including up to 20 participants or more. This format allows for multiple constellations to be processed and multiple opportunities for participants to represent and or simply to be in the circle.  

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The choice of group or individual work depends on you. In either case the facilitator asks the seeker who belongs to their family, and what the issue is. It may be one listed above. The seeker selects from the circle people to represent members of their family system, and positions them on the floor in relation to each other, and then the constellation comes into being.

Frequently asked questions

Safety

 

The entire workshop is a safe container.  All people present are asked to respect the identity, privacy, vulnerability, confidentiality of others, and the sharing that takes place. Please note that that is a matter of trust, beyond the control of the facilitator.

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Please advise if you have pre-existing physical or psychological sensitivities that may affect your process.  

 

Family Constellations is not indicated for people who live with schizophrenia or similarly complex diagnoses.

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Preparation

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If you can, prepare for your one to one or group session by having some quiet, reflective time to set your intentions.

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  Follow up

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Sometimes Constellation work evokes powerful emotion. You may want to follow up in a private session. See me on the day or contact me later to arrange a booking for another constellation or referral to a practitioner of another modality.

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'Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are.'

Esther Perel

 

Horse, dog and person and their shadows on Mahia beach at dusk

Changes To Notice After Constellations

 

  • You've got more energy 

 

  • You've let go of old ways that held you back

 

  • You accept the way some things have turned out in your life

 

  •  You notice more softness and flow in all your relationships 

 

  • You are aware of unconscious behaviours, and the way they impact you and your life

 

  • You feel that you can be the person you want to be

 

  • You radiate the transformation in every part of your life 

Mahia, East Coast, New Zealand Photo credit Karen Sole

Ethics 

 

manawa family constellations is guided by the code of ethics of ISCA ​and of the International Institute of Complementary Therapists. and Karen Sole is a member of both organisations.

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Supervision

 

My work is subject to monthly professional supervision by suitably qualified person or persons, and my own continuing therapy and learning is a condition of working in Family Constellations.

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Disclaimer

 

This website contains information about Family Constellations. None of the information is a substitute for medical or psychiatric intervention or treatment. Information about Karen Sole and her work is current and accurate.  Material contained in links to other sources of information are outside of her control and she does not take responsibility for content in or on the links so provided.

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Blissful scene at tea garden, Sanliurfa, Southeast Turkiye

Ayn Zelha Golu Park, Sanliurfa, South East Turkiye Photo credit Karen Sole

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