That groove may be littered with people who you picked to be in your life because with them you can faithfully replicate the agony of longing that characterised your early life, because they are like one of your parents or caregivers. Does that sound like your meet, get beaten - one way or another - rinse, repeat? Perhaps you’re ready to get out of there.

This is the story, refracted into a million parts by pretty words, analytical words, apologetic words, words of denial and buck passing - 'I wasn’t there' - we don’t believe you 'I didn’t go' - we don’t believe you 'I didn’t see' - we don’t believe you 'Nothing 'untoward' ever happened when I was there' - we don’t believe you. We believe the children and the women. It is their story.

We'll start with exploration of your given name, how you got it, the story behind it - ...Then there'll be time for 2-3 constellations working with issues arising in the exploration...Everyone present benefits from the process - no minute wasted, no one left out. We imagine that experiences that have affected us are unique to us, but they are universally resonant. Kick your year off with a relational refresher that lightens your life!

Jack or Jill, Ahmed or Aysegul, Francesco or Claudia, love it or hate it, your name contains big intergenerational stories, in just a few letters or characters. Let's have a look into it.

Last call to register. Sunday 30 November your name, your ancestry, your patterns - 3 hour online workshop and constellations. Book here now!

I needed to check in with something, someone(s) beyond my thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. As I sat in the jury box, I summoned the support of my ancestors through Dad and Lola and Maraea and way, way beyond. That was a moment. And there have been many more since...And that’s it, isn’t it. You are not alone. You are never alone. Your ancestors who dreamed of you are all around. Always.

Your given name is the starting point for this constellation. 3 hours, online, 2000 hours NZ time, Sunday 30 November 2025. Book online

Let’s talk about it, normalise it, de-mystify it, try to understand it, accept its pervasiveness, develop compassion toward our friends, family members and acquaintances who encounter it. Lets recognise it as a systemic issue and not an individual issue. Let’s fully accept that ‘mental illness’ is as blameless as cancer or a broken arm, or toothache. Let’s work towards breaking down the often astounding difficulties involved in getting help within the health and welfare syste

But it is not a peace plan. The whole world saw that in a nano second. It is merely the coda to Netanyahu’s forever stated determination to smash and decimate Palestine in Gaza and take over the territory fully. Humanity cannot bear the personal and collective consequences of the evil enacted in this genocide. For generations we will feel the trauma it has created.

The much flaunted ‘it is what it is’ or ‘the world is like that’ hit me as spiritual bypasses. Being urged to cheer up when you’re in deep grief. No, we have to allow our grief, our anger, our disappointment, our rage and frustration and then call on all the resources we have within ourselves, and by connection with friends and family, and political action, being in community, loving relentlessly, with gratitude for goodness, and pushing through with militant kindness. This i

Next workshop Saturday 09 November 10-3 pm, one hour lunch, book online at manawafamilyconstellations.com limited places

Family constellations gets at old, buried, forgotten, unrecognised hitches in your family system...