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A message to the New Zealand governing coalition: not in my name.
But it is not a peace plan. The whole world saw that in a nano second. It is merely the coda to Netanyahu’s forever stated determination to smash and decimate Palestine in Gaza and take over the territory fully. Humanity cannot bear the personal and collective consequences of the evil enacted in this genocide. For generations we will feel the trauma it has created.

Karen Sole
Oct 12 min read
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Joyous rage militant kindness medicine hat
The much flaunted ‘it is what it is’ or ‘the world is like that’ hit me as spiritual bypasses. Being urged to cheer up when you’re in deep grief. No, we have to allow our grief, our anger, our disappointment, our rage and frustration and then call on all the resources we have within ourselves, and by connection with friends and family, and political action, being in community, loving relentlessly, with gratitude for goodness, and pushing through with militant kindness. This i

Karen Sole
Sep 126 min read
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Later the same day...online Constellation 8-11pm New Zealand Time
We are all in need of some deep connection to ourselves and others in this awful time in the world in which our small personal issues are submerged by the accumulation of grief we are in. We cannot fix the world, but we can work with the personal.Are you
choosing the same partner?
in messy relationship(s) with parent, child or sibling?
struggling with the effects of abuse?Constellations works with these issues. ..and many more.

Karen Sole
Aug 273 min read
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Wishes for Aladdin's genie. What would you wish for? And what is happiness?
Systemic constellations provide a pragmatic/phenomenological way of working with the generationally collected and currently collective traumas we carry, by recognising what is, opening up our natural resilience which is a resource we take for granted, or perhaps we don’t even acknowledge it. We have it, though, otherwise we would not have made it to this moment, in whatever shape we are in.

Karen Sole
Aug 96 min read
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Never again has become shut the fuck up
In the same way each of us does, the world accumulates grief and trauma. The most recent is never over before the next crashes over us. That is clear, as we see the horrors of the Holocaust still rippling through generations of the perpetrators and the victims in equal measure and power. So too, the effects of the Nakba(s). And now, the tsunami that Israel created in 2023 is insistent, thrashing every shore. There is no way to avoid it.

Karen Sole
Jul 294 min read
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All the trauma lived out loud, all the kindness, all the love, all the current geopolitics, and all the billionaires and white American dream left out
...every time things seem to be sorting out, something else comes along to mess it up again, because that’s how life is, particularly for vulnerable people of all kinds ...

Karen Sole
Jun 173 min read
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Israel Is the Macrocosmic Version of the Violent Family Living Next Door, AND The Abusive Relatives In Your Family System
Israel is the apparently unimpeachable former victim turned rampant perpetrator, blessed only with protectors, not stopped by flame facers, or only ones they murder.

Karen Sole
May 166 min read
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We Need To Talk About Jamie. And Eddie.
Adolescence, the Netflix series, is loaded with trauma coming down the line, and out of the Andrew Tate poisoned air. And more. I'm picking up on just one aspect of family systems here. Belonging.

Karen Sole
Apr 126 min read
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Join My Online Workshop.
'Experience the deep exploration of a family/systemic constellation without leaving home. You need good connectivity and laptop or tablet'..

Karen Sole
Mar 71 min read
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Doing Is Believing: The Skinny On Getting Constellated
'...get to the root source of your unhelpful patterns - yes, even you, you wonderful accomplished person'...

Karen Sole
Mar 75 min read
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Karma Is Not A Spiritual Commodity
Intergenerational stress or trauma or joy or what we create by our own actions, or take on by interest or proximity has an effect. Karma.

Karen Sole
Feb 105 min read
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Get Curious About Your. Sweet. Self. And Stop Blaming Others For What 'Goes Wrong' .
‘When you throw a stone into a pond, the pond doesn’t know that it ripples.’

Karen Sole
Jan 274 min read
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09 November In Person Workshop
wouldn't you like to feel relaxed and relationally competent and grown up in those situations that ususally make you totally five years old?

Karen Sole
Sep 5, 20244 min read
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Collective Trauma Shows Up and Shapes Us
'[(despite) resilience]...the trauma does not just float away. We hold it. We carry it. We embody it. We just may not know it.'

Karen Sole
Aug 7, 20244 min read
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A Place For Everyone, Everyone In Their Place In Family Systems
'...unacknowledged, shamed and secret members of the family system reverbrate through generations, affecting later members...

Karen Sole
Aug 1, 20243 min read
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