Later the same day...online Constellation 8-11pm New Zealand Time
- Karen Sole
- Aug 27
- 3 min read
We are all in need of some deep connection to ourselves and others in this awful time in the world in which our small personal issues are submerged by the accumulation of grief we are in. We cannot fix the world, but we can work with the personal.
Are you
choosing the same partner?
in messy relationship(s) with parent, child or sibling?
struggling with the effects of abuse?
Constellations works with these issues. See the section on manawafamilyconstellations.com Is Family Constellations Right For You? for many more situations where constellations are effective. Even if you do not want to constellate your issue, being present and / or representing another person's father or mother, just for example, provide deep experience of the process and the field.
Don't put off that leap or deep enquiry you have been wanting to make, but somehow or other you always put off.
However many workouts you do, however much you talk to a psychologist, you will not release the pain and trauma stored in your body. That's shown by the months' and years' long sessions people do in conventional talk therapy! Family constellations provides a somatic and energetic way that reveals the patterns that no longer serve you, reveals the unthought known secrets in your family system, allows you to release secrets and shame and give back abuse to perpetrators. In one or two, or occasionally more sessions.
Only yesterday, during deep discussions in my group supervision session with Yildiz Sethi (yildizsethi.com), where we spent the first half hour expressing the deep grief and disgust we all feel about the Gaza genocide, I experienced several insights into my family of origin and my patterns, although each time another facilitator's work or issues were being explored. These were expressed through instant tears and something I can easily call a lightning flash in one case, and in others, the felt sense of a topic touching an old sorrow in a new way, what people refer to as 'triggering' or 'activating'
These are pieces of information about unfinished business that I need to work with to fully release subtle trauma my body is still holding onto decades later. I know, without the slightest doubt that going into constellation with another facilitator will enable that to happen. Either something works or it doesn't. My experience is that constellations work, every time. The field does not lie, ever.
Don't fear if this is a new type of therapy for you. We start by creating a safe container, with some exercises for everyone, and then begin the first constellation. All participation is voluntary - you only do what you are comfortable with. If that means staying seated in the circle the whole time that is fine. On the other hand if a person constellating their issue (the 'client') asks you to represent a one of the people in their system, and you are ready to do so, welcome to an a mazing experience. It is not role play or pyschodrama or encounter group or any other possibly scary type of psychotherapy. You are placecd in the field in spatial relationship to others who are representing, and the constellation works, like your breath breathes you! Easy.
You can learn more about me - seems only fair - by browsing manawafamilyconstellations.com Your enquiries are welcome. Send an email or use the chat function 'contact us' on the site. I appreciate your interest, look forward to hearing from you and seeing you at the workshop, where you will get three hours of therapy! There is no waste, no unimportant moment. There will be time for two full constellations - first in first served. Let me know when you book.
If this doesn't feel like the right time to work in a group setting, make an appointment for a private session, on Zoom where ever you are in the world. Contact me to arrange a time that works for you. I work in English.
Karen Sole
Karen Sole is a member of the International Institute for Complementary Therapists, and of the International Systemic Constellations Association (isca-network.org), and a member of ANZCI, the Aotearoa New Zealand Constellation Incorporated. She took her first training from Yildiz Sethi yildizsethi.com of familyconstellations.com.au. Karen's profile can be found on the above organisational sites. She participates in monthly professional supervision, facilitator member constellations of ANZCI, ISCA, and informal international groups of experienced credentialed facilitators.
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