We're so busy. We often don't have time for ourselves. A mini or espresso constellation fits nicely at the start of your day, before your mind is distracted by your strangely steady to-do list. Make yourself a brew, silence your phone, and Zoom in with me for 15 minutes of focus on your 'stuff'. Don't put it off any longer. You've got this.

This is the story, refracted into a million parts by pretty words, analytical words, apologetic words, words of denial and buck passing - 'I wasn’t there' - we don’t believe you 'I didn’t go' - we don’t believe you 'I didn’t see' - we don’t believe you 'Nothing 'untoward' ever happened when I was there' - we don’t believe you. We believe the children and the women. It is their story.

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But it is not a peace plan. The whole world saw that in a nano second. It is merely the coda to Netanyahu’s forever stated determination to smash and decimate Palestine in Gaza and take over the territory fully. Humanity cannot bear the personal and collective consequences of the evil enacted in this genocide. For generations we will feel the trauma it has created.

The much flaunted ‘it is what it is’ or ‘the world is like that’ hit me as spiritual bypasses. Being urged to cheer up when you’re in deep grief. No, we have to allow our grief, our anger, our disappointment, our rage and frustration and then call on all the resources we have within ourselves, and by connection with friends and family, and political action, being in community, loving relentlessly, with gratitude for goodness, and pushing through with militant kindness. This i

These are pieces of information about unfinished business that I need to work with to fully release subtle trauma my body is still holding onto decades later. I know, without the slightest doubt that going into constellation with another facilitator will enable that to happen. Either something works or it doesn't. My experience is that constellations work, every time. The field does not lie, ever.

Systemic constellations provide a pragmatic/phenomenological way of working with the generationally collected and currently collective traumas we carry, by recognising what is, opening up our natural resilience which is a resource we take for granted, or perhaps we don’t even acknowledge it. We have it, though, otherwise we would not have made it to this moment, in whatever shape we are in.

We are stardust!!

...every time things seem to be sorting out, something else comes along to mess it up again, because that’s how life is, particularly for vulnerable people of all kinds ...

Managers are often not naturally imbued with skills and attributes required for working well and effectively with people they are charged with managing. It becomes an awkward hit and miss affair punctuated by dodgems, deceit, delusions, and ending with anxiety and stress.

Poor pay and conditions contribute so much to women’s stress and consequent poor physical, emotional, and mental health outcomes. Eighty percent of auto immune disease is in women...Maori and Pacific women fare measurably worst among women here in all spheres of life. Not paying women adequately for their work exacerbates all the structural problems...Women’s work matters to everyone.

Adolescence, the Netflix series, is loaded with trauma coming down the line, and out of the Andrew Tate poisoned air. And more. I'm picking up on just one aspect of family systems here. Belonging.